We discussed divorce and step families this week in class. I actually come from a divorced family so I can relate in a number of ways. My parents divorced when I was just a baby, so i have grown up with just my mom and sister. My father remarried when I was around 13, and she had a son from a previous marriage. They had a child together so I have a half brother as well. I did not live with my dad and step mother so i did not have to deal with a number of the difficulties that come with a step family.
One thing that I am so sure of that would have been difficult for me growing up would be the disciple. Especially if my mom would have remarried but she never did.
Some guidelines for discipline:
- "not my mom/dad"
- it takes a least 2 years to reach normality
- biological parent needs to do the heavy parenting
- give support and warmth
- the couple needs to conference together
I can see how the couple conferencing together can be so very important. It is important that the couple is on the same page. They need to have the same rules for the house and the same ways to discipline. Especially when there is children from both parents. They need to act as one so children will not come between them.
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